Mabey Memories

The desire of my heart is to become the person God dreams of and share those dreams with others; to unleash personal and corporate creativiy within the church, overflowing it with passion and freedom while searching for the face and character of God.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Set Apart 07

Something that could only be orchestrated by God himself.....Zach was able to set off with a group of about 30 other students from around the East Michigan district and head to Orlando for the next 5 days. Over the next several hours, (24 for E. MI.) thousands of teenagers, youth leaders, and young adults from across the United States and abroad will be getting into church vans, chartered buses, and airplanes and converging on Orlando, Florida for what promises to be an experience like they've never had before.

Please Pray....

you can click on the the following link to find out more about Set Apart and how to pray specifically for the next 5 days.

Thanks J for all your hard work and for allowing Zach the privilege...I am praying Great things!

Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Christmas changes everything

Have you ever noticed how a change in light can transform the world around you? You see it especially at this season, indoors and out. Look around you. Ordinary houses and yards emerged as illuminated wonderlands. Downtown lights become decorative sentinels. Strings of white lights wink on porches and dip from eves, while colored lights cast multi hued reflections off snowy sidewalks, candles glow in windows. No wonder people drive around just to see the sights even though we have seen them millions of times during the previous 11 months. Everything look completely different when the Christmas lights are on.....even indoors houses have been transformed.

In our own home Micah stares with wonder at the difference. Tiny lights twinkle on the trees and above the windows the mantel and the book shelves. Tree lights casting a glow o the ceiling and the walls Candles glow on stove tops, bathroom sinks and in the Windows. Fire light dances on the hearth.

Our world seems somehow warmer, more beautiful, more joyful when the house is lit for Christmas, dust disappears, "kid proof, battered furniture looks new again, even the clutter of four children and two adults living under one roof seems lovely instead of annoying. to me the whole process is captivating...... to me it brings the reminder that the light of Christmas is suppose to change everything. The light of the world has conquered darkness, life has overcome death. The coming of the Christ child has transformed the universe and we are just now in the process of trying to catch up.
Christmas afternoon we spend time as a family, the room looks like a gift wrap display exploded, the floor is strewn with wrapping and presents paper, ribbons and bows, the pile is high and the boys love the mess, we will pick up enough to find the floor but now is time for the afterglow.
We were new clothes we breathe the December air, we listen to the chatter of the boys about there new gifts, listen to new music, play new games , we enjoy the after glow. After we have talked to all our family, the phone stops ringing, and daily demands like laundry come to a halt. so enjoy this afterglow of Christmas choose to resist the culture a bit , leave your tree up, the lights on and take time out just to be- it is worth the effort, Savoring the after glow!

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Merry Christmas

Contrary to the Christmas critics, Christmas is a time fore extravagance.
"For unto us is born this day a Savior who is Christ the Lord" went the greeting from the angel Gabriel.
What an Outlandish, extravagant gift! A gift of life itself. A gift that would forever change the history of the human story. The incarnation is extravagant grace. We prepare. We shop. we again await the hearing of these familiar words we can almost recite from memory- because we are preparing a celebration of God's extravagant love. Yes, Christmas is a time to be extravagant.
Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 24, 2007

Christmas eve 2007

Silent night, Holy Night all is calm all is bright....Sounds like Christmas eve at your house? Not mine! at least not this year.
In a house full of boys two of them being teenagers it is still a time of simmering excitement. The day is almost here! The house has been decorated, the presents have been wrapped- well almost, We have been to church- this year Kensington Troy campus was the church of choice, we have read the Christmas story. Now all that is left is to climb into bed and drift off to a peaceful sleep and wait for morning.
But sleep that is the problem! Who can sleep on such a night?
I remember well trying to sleep as a child, that last minute drink of water or questions or something we forgot to say during the previous 24 hours.......It must have been a trial for my mom with just the two of us- I HAVE one point we even resorted to opening one present on Christmas eve as a little preview to what was to come, (I am not sure it ever worked then- but it is a tradition I still carry and it still does not work today:))
Today Matt and I relish our shut eye -we finally fall into our beds about 1:30 am but we still tend to wake a bit sleep deprived our boys no less hyper than my brother Acey wake us at 6:45AM yet we don't seem to mind a little Christmas insomnia, it reminds me there was little sleeping done that first Christmas eve.
After all a woman was having a baby- hardly conducive to sleeping even with an epidural:) Surely Joseph was pacing- then later the Shepard's stirring about, animals baaing and mooing ......Surely everyone was to keyed up to sleep!
and yet there was peace....just as there is peace on this Christmas eve when every "mouse keeps stirring and wont go to bed for Santa to come"Amid all the noise and the hubbub of Christmas eve comes the shining moment of wide awake yet perfect peace. The peace of knowing that good news has come to earth. The peace of knowing that all is truly well, the light has shined in the darkness, that Christmas comes weather or not we get to bed at a decent hour. Sleep or no sleep it is truly a heavenly peace.

Monday, December 10, 2007


We wanted to alert you to a new movie that is coming out today. It has a strong anti-God and anti-church theme, and would not be one that we think would be acceptable for any person to support through attending or watching. The movie is called the Golden Compass.

The movie is based off a the first book of a trilogy called “His Dark Materials” by Philip Pullman, who is a renowned atheist. He said in 2003 that “My books are about killing God...” and in 2001 the he is “trying to undermine the basis of Christian belief.”

Despite the exciting, harmless previews, Pullman presents Daemons (pronounced demons) as cool and neat. A daemon is a child's best friend, confidant, and co-adventurer in life. Every kid needs and wants one. A child and his daemon are like an invincible team. By contrast, children without daemons are unhappy, miserable and pathetic. They're like zombies without any personality.

The goal of this movie is to have kids watch the movie, then go to their website, or worse yet, ask for the books for Christmas. The website tells you “To discover your very own Daemon, look into your heart, and answer the following 20 questions openly and honestly. Your true character and the form of Daemon will be revealed, ready to be taken with you into your virtual world."

The real danger is in the books. In the books it goes farther explaining that “Yahweh” is the ultimate evil. It says that the Church is engaged in a conspiracy to separate children from their personal daemons. Look to the demonic for fun, excitement, companionship, adventure, and freedom. Pullman's work is about to bring millions of children into contact with the demonic. In the last book, the kids set out on a mission to kill God, which they succeed in, making the world a better place for all.

We want to encourage each of you to do more than not go to the movie. Talk to your kids about being careful with what the watch and listen to. Even though something may be entertaining, it may not be worth it if it promotes compromise or goes against what the Bible says. 1 Corinthians 10:23 says ""Everything is permissible"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"--but not everything is constructive." The Bible also teaches us to separate ourselves from evil. 2 Corinthians 6:14 - 17 says “For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?... For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.”" Teach your kids how to determine for themselves what is right and holy, and they will rise to the challenge!

Friday, November 30, 2007

Tree Hunting 2007


So today I had a doctor appointment with my Gynecologist.
what I thought was going to be a normal, yearly check up ended up with me having to make an appointment for a mammogram. Nothing new, being 40 now I have to go yearly anyway, however I should hae gone in April so I was a bit over due, BUT being I was a bit pre occupied with melanoma in April and then spent the next 10 weeks+ dealing with multiple appointments and culminating with surgery going for a mammogram kind of gotta put on the back burner. Now I am wishing I had gone when I was suppose to. My doctor found a suspicious , dense, mass. Bummer is, as well as feeling that, I also had high blood pressure ( well duh, you just tell me you feel something that should not be there then take my blood pressure?) but I have no insurance. The boys have been our priority and they have coverage through the Michigan Mi Child program but me, nada.....when I got home and called the comprehensive breast cancer center, where I have gone since begining to have these exams and I found out is is going to cost me $150 for the film version of a mammogram or $275 for a digital version, well that is a no brainer right, then another $140.00 for an ultra sound on my left breast. The doctor wants me to have a bilateral with a diagnostic for the mammogram and the left breast ultra sound. The health center proceeded to tell me I need to pay in full on the day of the mammogram, 3 weeks before Christmas - right- have no idea how we are going to do this one! So far the only thing I am sure of " I hate being 40! I have been so healthy my whole life, only time I have ever been in the hospital except for melanoma was to have my 4 babies. On a good note- had my 6 month check up with the dermatologist last week and they did not find anything new. God sure does have a sense of humor huh? My mammogram is currently schedualed for next thursday at 10:15am then a return to the gynecologist on January 8.

Thursday, November 22, 2007

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanks'giv'ing n. 1 a formal public expression of thanks to God 2 (T-) an annual U.S. Holiday observed on the fourth Thursday of November.

really that is what it says in the Webster's New World dictionary ........

and today as this Thanksgiving comes to a close I am Thankful.

Thankful for family, although today was a different kind of holiday for us being in Michigan with out any of our extended family( and I miss you all- ) and still lonely for our Community family we still found time to be thankful, with a lazy morning full of parades, bands, floats and football along with anticipating the smells of turkey, potatoes and gravy as well as corn, asparagus, apple and pumpkin pie....oh the list goes on for a small family of 6 but it was worth it, Matt was healthy after a traumatic year of knee surgery and then cancer surgery for me we are in relatively good health, we have had ups and we have had downs but through it all God has been constant. It has not always felt like he has even been near but would not really ever want to find out what it is like with out HIM! God is Good!

Zach, my handsome first born son....can it be you are 15 and a sophomore in high school, with girlfriends around every corner....well not truly but it is hard for me not to be the only girl in your life- I am Thankful for the transition you are making from being a a kid to being a godly young man, I am amazed at every one of your soccer games as to your speed, you agility your passion for the game. I am trying not to blink so as not to miss a minute of it . Continue giving your very best to Jesus and He will give you the desires of your heart and know I am always going to be your number one cheerleader! I am Thankful!

Thankful for Aaron -Your sweet nature continues to be the bright spot in our home. Ever since you learned to smile you have never stopped- it has been a joy to watch you grow, and grow and grow and well you get the picture! at 6 feet tall I can no longer look into your eyes with out telling you stop that growing but you know I really do not want that to happen I am just sad knowing one day you will not be my little guy any more. You had a fabulous football season and are beginning the basketball season now- no matter how many wins and losses you have on the field or the court, know I just want you to keep winning for Him! You make me so proud and I am Thankful.

Noah you amaze me and I am so thankful! you have grown up to be a bright, articulate confident 12 years old! I know that Jesus is leading your way and am excited to find out what he has in store for you- this year is a turning point for me as you graduated 5Th grade and begun middle school, the first of your brothers to go to middle school as a 6Th grader frightens me to death yet you have taken it all in stride. I am so proud of you and thankful for having you in our lives- that day we almost lost you in the backyard pool when you where 3 had changed my life 9 years ago and today you are still my Hero and make me Thankful.

Micah - my baby! I know you do not like when I call you that but in my eyes you are still my baby even at 9 years old yet how thankful I am to have spent these precious 9 years with you. Even though you are in 3rd grade this year I still miss you every day you are at school, If I knew I could do a good job I would home school you in a minute! BUT i know how social you are and that you would only be home schooled to make me happy, for you love your friends at your school and you truly do well when you are there- you are learning so much and so fast your teacher sometimes has to give you more work because you get it all done so quickly to get on to the next thing you can learn. The other day when mommy and daddy where getting ready for Mr Jason's wedding you told me that one day when yo go married you were going to marry some one just like me. Talk about making my day......I thank God for you every day Micah.

I am Thankful for friends - we played a friendly game of backyard football with the neighboring family where the Mabey family went down in a blaze of Glory:) (better luck next year to us) It has been different the last few years and yes that coming from the mouth of someone who admits that different is good! Yet sometimes I will say I miss the the way things used to be. We have allot of friends and continue to make new friends every day but when it comes to the holiday sometimes you just want the comfort of old friends! Well today quiet possibly sparked a new tradition and helped in the way of creating new, lasting friendships. The family that lives next door to us has three boys and they borrowed an extra one for the football game, you know for even teams, even though our boys are 15, 14, 12 and 9 and there boys are 11, 10, and 6 plus the extra boy who was 10 or 11.........

so any way..... as in the first definition of Thanksgiving let this be my formal public expression of thanks to God for with out Him my life would be a wreck - I did not do so good with out Him early on and am sure it would have only gotten worse- but today I can celebrate Him and thank Him for loving me and being my best friend even when I do not deserve it.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007


After 6 years and 3 surgeries - Micah still has fluid in his left ear! I don't get it-

he is needing 5 drops twice a day for 10 days then back to the ENT- what a drag.
Please pray, this is getting ridiculous.

Monday, November 19, 2007

Challenge day!

I spent a very tiring but rewarding two days at our Romeo High school!
Imagine a world where every child feels safe, loved and Celebrated!
Realize you can be the change you wish to see in the world!
Welcome to the world of challenge day!
The Challenge Day program is designed to help stop the violence and alienation that youth face every day. We don't believe that young people feel isolated due to a lack of people around them. Rather, they feel isolated because of a lack of connection with them. Our program tears down the walls of separation, creates connection and support among participants, and inspires people to live in an environment of compassion, acceptance and respect.
Challenge Day: A one-day workshop where youth, teachers, parents, administrators, counselors and members of the community experience for themselves that love and connection are indeed possible in our schools.
Through a carefully designed series of innovative games, activities, group discussions, icebreakers and trust-building exercises, participants learn how to break down the walls of separation and create new levels of respect and communication with their peers, teachers, parents and themselves.
Challenge Day believes that separation, isolation and loneliness are the root cause of a wide range of teen issues such as teasing, bullying, stereotyping, racism, violence, suicide, sexism, and the use of drugs, alcohol and tobacco. By promoting self-acceptance and respect for others, Challenge Day ignites participants' passions and inspires them to become positive forces in their schools and communities.
To introduce the school and larger community to the Challenge Day concepts, Be The Change School Teams begin with a series of Showcase Challenge Days. These days help to enroll support and participation in creating the school's long range plan. Additional Challenge Days or other programs, such as our Mentorship and Challenger programs, can then be integrated into that plan. Challenge Days can also be tailored for special classes, such as Leadership/Conflict Resolution Groups or the Junior class Legacy model, while Senior Challenge Days are a wonderful way for graduating seniors to gain closure on high school, and plan for what the future holds.
In some cases, where entire schools are committed to creating an environment where every child feels safe, loved and celebrated, School Teams can be coached in co-creating the entire "Be The Change School" model.
notice • choose • act
2520 Stanwell
Be the Change!

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Fullum wedding - Finally!

After 10 years of knowing this man!
We finally had the privilege of celebrating
with him on his wedding day!

Congratulations J I(we) am so happy for you!

(I)We look forward to watching your marriage
grow and flourish!

Santa Arrives

Aarons middle school band welcomed Santa to Frontier town on a cold blustery day-
this was the first opportunity we had to hear them this school year and it was a treat!
That is Aaron there on the drum in the orange sweater......cute huh?

Saturday, November 10, 2007


Aaron is the starting Center on the 8th grade basketball team!

Friday, November 09, 2007


Last day of ( of 3 days) Basketball tryouts for Aaron

Will let you know how it goes!

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Trick or treat on Tillson street

We have lived here for 13 years now and have never gone to Tillson street on Halloween. This year Matt was gone so the boys and I decided it was time to do something different. After giving candy out in our own neighborhood for an hour we took off downtown. What a shock! It was packed- we parked at Celebrationz hair salon and walked across the street- on Halloween the roads are closed because there are so many people. I had no idea! The decorations were great- if you are from the area you will appreciate the bulldog grave yard! Hysterical! There were even t shirts printed "I survived Tillson street". We had a good time the weather cooperated and and we created a new memory!

School Halloween party


Romeo Weather